Attending Wake/Funeral

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Posted by Lu Yee | Posted in Life | Posted on 15-06-2010

One morning, as early as 7am, I received an sms from my ex bf that reads “My
dad passed away”.
A gush of sadness brushed over me but I’m not shocked, as I know his dad has
been ill for many years since we were in college. We are prepared for it to
happen, just do not know when. His dad has been struggling with diabetes for
almost 10 years, and having blurred vision and slowly he is unable to see.
I was contemplating whether I should go to the wake or funeral, and I
decided to just go to the wake. I hope I will not feel awkward seeing him
and his family again. It has been really a long time since I met my ex, and
I can’t believe that the next time we meet each other is actually on a
wake/funeral.
On Sunday night, I attended the wake. I met his family, whom I have not met
for many years. I actually felt happy to see them again. Looking at the coffin, I recall a man who once healthy when
I first saw him. Came back home from work like any other people, walking
around, happily talking. Slowly diabetes is eating him up to the point he
needs to do dialysis.. that was all 2-3 years ago..
I have not seen him since I went to Singapore. Though there are times I
wanted to visit him, but I feel that I shouldn’t because my ex and I have went to different direction in life since then and I should not interfere in his life anymore.
That night, is the first time after we broke up we both actually sat down and talk like normal friends, updating each other. I saw his dad’s body in the coffin and I feel really sad.. he has grown old so much since the last time I saw him.
I’m glad I attended the wake to pay my last respect. For many people out there who are contemplating whether you should go to your ex’s family’s funeral or wake.. my advise is “Go”. We are there to pay our last respect to the deceased, and we do not mean anything else. I am sure your ex will be grateful that you came as well.

Before I start with this post, I would like to thank my bf, David for being supportive and understanding. I really appreciate it. :) Here goes :-

One morning, as early as 7am, I received an sms from my ex bf that reads “My dad passed away”.

A gush of sadness brushed over me but I’m not shocked, as I know his dad has been diagnosed with diabetes for many years since we were in college. His dad has been struggling with diabetes for almost 10 years, and having blurred vision and slowly he became blind.

I was contemplating whether I should go to the wake or funeral, and I decided to just go to the wake. I hope I will not feel awkward seeing him and his family again. It has been really a long time since I met my ex, and I can’t believe that the next time we meet each other is actually on a wake/funeral.

On Sunday night, I attended the wake. I met his family, whom I have not met for years. I actually felt happy to see them again. Looking at the coffin, I recall a man who once healthy when I first saw him. Came back home from work like any other people, walking around, happily talking and a man who cares for his family. Slowly diabetes is eating him up in few years period to the point he needs to do dialysis.. that was all 2-3 years ago when I last saw him before my ex and I broke up..

That night, is the first time after we broke up we both actually sat down and talk like normal friends, updating each other. I saw his dad’s body in the coffin and I feel really sad.. he has grown old so much since the last time I saw him.

I’m glad I attended the wake to pay my last respect. For many people out there who are contemplating whether you should go to your ex’s family’s funeral or wake.. my advise is “Go”. We are there to pay our last respect to the deceased, and we do not mean anything else. I am sure your ex will be grateful that you came as well.

May the deceased rest in peace, as his suffering has ended.

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